Are we (developers) the douchey 80s guy of the 21st century?
To paraphrase Neal Stephenson's Snow Crash, one problem is guys believing that they're too smart to be sexist.
I also believe that a lot of people involved can't handle the idea that they're being bullies, and so further attempt to rationalise their actions with terrible analogies and arguments that boil down to "I'm a geek - I'm incapable of oppressing someone!"
To paraphrase Neal Stephenson's Snow Crash, one problem is guys believing that they're too smart to be sexist.
I also believe that a lot of people involved can't handle the idea that they're being bullies, and so further attempt to rationalise their actions with terrible analogies and arguments that boil down to "I'm a geek - I'm incapable of oppressing someone!"