If I work for you, and you don't fire him, I quit. That we're even discussing this has me looking at the door. I'm not sure you can do anything to redeem not having already fired the guy.
If you won't stand up for yourself here, I don't know when you will. I certainly don't know when you would stand up for me.
Get a lawyer and do it right. But fire him.
ALSO: Maybe more important. Get yourself into therapy of some kind. Immediately. Get screened for depression and pyschological disorder.
That you are even asking this question suggests that your priorities and self-image have departed from normal ranges in unhealthy ways. Never mind the goddam business. You aren't even living your life. Something is seriously haywire. If you don't go to work on it you are going to end up a very sad and strange story.
If you won't stand up for yourself here, I don't know when you will. I certainly don't know when you would stand up for me.
Get a lawyer and do it right. But fire him.
ALSO: Maybe more important. Get yourself into therapy of some kind. Immediately. Get screened for depression and pyschological disorder.
That you are even asking this question suggests that your priorities and self-image have departed from normal ranges in unhealthy ways. Never mind the goddam business. You aren't even living your life. Something is seriously haywire. If you don't go to work on it you are going to end up a very sad and strange story.