To clarify: I'm calling out parent commenter's inability to
sympathize with the OP
because the OP is unpleasant.
Yes, the OP's communication style and personality is a factor in their relationship with the community.
And assuming the "unpleasantness" claim is true, one could say this:
"It is unfortunate that someone with OP's skill set has alienated themselves from the rest of the community. *While I sympathize with them*, the reality is that *skills alone are not enough*, and never have been; making amends with others is just as important skill as any other in this field — or any field where a solitary effort isn't the end-all result. Gregory Perelman, perhaps, can afford to be unpleasant; a videogame reverse engineer, however talented, may not, if they want to both thrive and be happy in this line of work.
It's sad, yet that's how the world works. Everyone loses here."
See? It is possible to express what you call a "common sentiment" and tie it to the discussion without any loss of
sympathy.
The parent commenter is unable to do that. In their own words (in a follow-up comment), if someone is unpleasant, their sympathy ends.
This is a very common pattern, alas, in non-autistic people.
That said, commonness is not an excuse.
Yes, the OP's communication style and personality is a factor in their relationship with the community.
And assuming the "unpleasantness" claim is true, one could say this:
See? It is possible to express what you call a "common sentiment" and tie it to the discussion without any loss of sympathy.The parent commenter is unable to do that. In their own words (in a follow-up comment), if someone is unpleasant, their sympathy ends.
This is a very common pattern, alas, in non-autistic people.
That said, commonness is not an excuse.