You can't just throw out cliches if you're going to claim something as impactful as that. You seem to be saying there's some kind of conservation of niceness so increasing your treatment of one group requires decreasing it for another group? Why is that?
And the answer couldn't be based on the amount of effort it takes, since in the small town scenario you're doing the effortful nice behavior 95% of the time.
And the answer couldn't be based on the amount of effort it takes, since in the small town scenario you're doing the effortful nice behavior 95% of the time.