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Comment by skulk

> Just do other things you like and don't worry about women.

Just want to pile on here and say that this is absolutely crucial, both for your chances of eventually finding someone and if not that, for your own sanity.

1. if you go into activities with the ulterior motive of meeting someone, you're not going to be satisfied by the activity itself which will cause resentment.

2. people can sense when your heart isn't really into what you're doing, and this will defeat your purpose entirely causing #1

You really have to accept that you may never find someone to properly get into this mindset though, and that's really hard. But it's a choice and I'm convinced that it's the correct one.

parent skulk 16 days ago

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