Taking the occasion here to talk about my case (the article itself is not worthy of any attention).
I am a parent with two young kids. My older one is difficult. He has had behavioral problems since very early on. Looking at the current set of "disorders", he checks all the boxes for OCD. I am putting "disorder" in quotes, because I don't consider it an illness to be defiant. It's annoying AF, but in the wild he'd be just another ape. Btw, there is no "cure" either, the "treatment" is to help parents dealing with it.
So my kid does talk back to teachers. He does hit his friends. He probably steals. He probably lies. I dont know the full extent.
Day in, day out we hear:
- kids these days are treated like kings
- their parents let them do whatever they want
- kids hit their teachers and nothing happens
- schools level plummet cause kids are making a mess
- it wasn't like this in my days
and so on and so forth
As the parent of my kids, I can assure you that we've never been permissive or lax with them, and neither have been their grand parents, or their teachers. The older one getting under our skins easily, we did use quite a lot of "force" in trying to stop him as the article puts it.
I think there might have been a time when those children were meant to be "broken", as in beaten so much so you suck the life out of them. My father got whipped, not sure he came out much wiser for it. So yeah, maybe there was a time when the "bad seeds were rooted out" and life was better for everyone else.
Luckily, many professionals are aware of this, his teachers understand how it works. The people we've seen were very helpful.
My personal experience is that: it's not permissivity, it's physically wired in the brain. If kids overall have more problems than they used to, look not for parenting problems, look for environmental problems.
Maybe it's the ecology, maybe it's increased overall stress. I don't know. Just don't blame it on parents.
Most of us try our best.
I am a parent with two young kids. My older one is difficult. He has had behavioral problems since very early on. Looking at the current set of "disorders", he checks all the boxes for OCD. I am putting "disorder" in quotes, because I don't consider it an illness to be defiant. It's annoying AF, but in the wild he'd be just another ape. Btw, there is no "cure" either, the "treatment" is to help parents dealing with it.
So my kid does talk back to teachers. He does hit his friends. He probably steals. He probably lies. I dont know the full extent.
Day in, day out we hear:
- kids these days are treated like kings
- their parents let them do whatever they want
- kids hit their teachers and nothing happens
- schools level plummet cause kids are making a mess
- it wasn't like this in my days
and so on and so forth
As the parent of my kids, I can assure you that we've never been permissive or lax with them, and neither have been their grand parents, or their teachers. The older one getting under our skins easily, we did use quite a lot of "force" in trying to stop him as the article puts it.
I think there might have been a time when those children were meant to be "broken", as in beaten so much so you suck the life out of them. My father got whipped, not sure he came out much wiser for it. So yeah, maybe there was a time when the "bad seeds were rooted out" and life was better for everyone else.
Luckily, many professionals are aware of this, his teachers understand how it works. The people we've seen were very helpful.
My personal experience is that: it's not permissivity, it's physically wired in the brain. If kids overall have more problems than they used to, look not for parenting problems, look for environmental problems.
Maybe it's the ecology, maybe it's increased overall stress. I don't know. Just don't blame it on parents.
Most of us try our best.