Ask HN: What are appropriate ways to find out how much I should be making?

I do not feel right to discuss this with friends, colleagues. And recruiters always tell me "it depends". But every time I asked something and got accepted, I sensed that I asked too low.

The problem is that experience of each person is different (I graduated for some years). I tried to look at some online statistics and they do not look accurate to me.

Just wondering how you solve this for yourself? Thanks in advance!