Comment by cheese_van

In my personal experience, a divorce, money (child support), if I couldn't change it, I'd ignore it. But to ignore my own adversity, I had to intensely focus on something else, typically a new interest or hobby. I dove into medieval history, and now have a suberb library on on the topic - the reading and the collecting books both informed me and kept my mind off the troubles I couldn't avoid. And I dove into baseball which to be honest, broke my heart but baseball despair is an infinitly more palatable despair than love loss.