In the interests of rigor I'm going to propose a ranking system. A higher rank means more "Message Oriented".
Rank 1: Polymorphism. You can "send" a message to an object. You don't know or care exactly what the object does. Other than the polymorphism, the "message" behaves just like a function call. It will definitely be handled by your target object, and it will definitely return instantly with a response. The compiler might even be able to inline this function call.
As seen in: Pretty much every OOP language.
Rank 2: Messages as first-class values. It's possible to write a function that forwards all incoming messages to another object, based on some logic. The caller does not know what will happen to the message. However, the message can be expected to be handled instantly, and it may respond instantly (if it does have a response).
As seen in: Objective-C, Smalltalk
Rank 3: Asynchronous messaging. When sending an outgoing message, it might be placed in a queue and handled at a later date. The message does not return a result instantly, so agents must have some other mechanism (such as including a "reply to" address) to be able to talk back and forth. From the perspective of the caller, it's a bit like putting a message in a bottle and watching it drift off to sea.
As seen in: Erlang, message queueing libraries.
Rank 1: Polymorphism. You can "send" a message to an object. You don't know or care exactly what the object does. Other than the polymorphism, the "message" behaves just like a function call. It will definitely be handled by your target object, and it will definitely return instantly with a response. The compiler might even be able to inline this function call.
As seen in: Pretty much every OOP language.
Rank 2: Messages as first-class values. It's possible to write a function that forwards all incoming messages to another object, based on some logic. The caller does not know what will happen to the message. However, the message can be expected to be handled instantly, and it may respond instantly (if it does have a response).
As seen in: Objective-C, Smalltalk
Rank 3: Asynchronous messaging. When sending an outgoing message, it might be placed in a queue and handled at a later date. The message does not return a result instantly, so agents must have some other mechanism (such as including a "reply to" address) to be able to talk back and forth. From the perspective of the caller, it's a bit like putting a message in a bottle and watching it drift off to sea.
As seen in: Erlang, message queueing libraries.