I'm not a fan of the database lookup analogy either.
The analogy I prefer when teaching attention is celestial mechanics. Tokens are like planets in (latent) space. The attention mechanism is like a kind of "gravity" where each token is influencing each other, pushing and pulling each other around in (latent) space to refine their meaning. But instead of "distance" and "mass", this gravity is proportional to semantic inter-relatedness and instead of physical space this is occurring in a latent space.
The analogy I prefer when teaching attention is celestial mechanics. Tokens are like planets in (latent) space. The attention mechanism is like a kind of "gravity" where each token is influencing each other, pushing and pulling each other around in (latent) space to refine their meaning. But instead of "distance" and "mass", this gravity is proportional to semantic inter-relatedness and instead of physical space this is occurring in a latent space.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZuiJjkbX0Og&t=3569s