This was a good, albeit sobering, read.
Advice to other commenters here on HN. Before clicking 'add comment', ask yourself:
- If I post from a non-empathetic stance, to what extent is my lack of empathy a strategy to avoid experiencing discomfort?
- If I post from a contradicting or fact-checking stance, to what extent is my skepticism motivated by a desire to feel safer in the world?
- If I post from a relativising or contextualizing stance, to what extent is my reframing driven by the fear that it could happen to me?
You don't have to ask yourself any of these things; but they are hard-won tools I've gained through a lot of work on myself, and they have been of benefit to me. May they be of benefit to you as well.
Advice to other commenters here on HN. Before clicking 'add comment', ask yourself:
- If I post from a non-empathetic stance, to what extent is my lack of empathy a strategy to avoid experiencing discomfort?
- If I post from a contradicting or fact-checking stance, to what extent is my skepticism motivated by a desire to feel safer in the world?
- If I post from a relativising or contextualizing stance, to what extent is my reframing driven by the fear that it could happen to me?
You don't have to ask yourself any of these things; but they are hard-won tools I've gained through a lot of work on myself, and they have been of benefit to me. May they be of benefit to you as well.