Exactly. Parents can get lost in the importance of controlling the child that anything that acknowledges the child’s world / experience can be seen as an obstacle.
Ironically, acknowledging the experience, acknowledging the emotions, in good faith, models healthy self-regulation and once the emotions are felt, unlocks more cognitive availability to exercise self-discipline in the context of a goal.
A child overwhelmed by emotion has much less availability to listen understand and learn than one who is regulated.
But focusing only on control, the parent may lose track of the rest. It’s a lose-lose scenario.
Ironically, acknowledging the experience, acknowledging the emotions, in good faith, models healthy self-regulation and once the emotions are felt, unlocks more cognitive availability to exercise self-discipline in the context of a goal.
A child overwhelmed by emotion has much less availability to listen understand and learn than one who is regulated.
But focusing only on control, the parent may lose track of the rest. It’s a lose-lose scenario.