Women are generally weaker than men, and even in the situation that you're explaining, women with a strength penalty could still end up stronger than men within the game.
The insistence that acknowledging that women are weaker than men is some sort of bigotry is deeply misogynistic. If fantasy women are just as strong as men, then real women just need to work harder to live up to the standards of men. If women in fantasy are as strong as men, then women in reality aren't being allowed to see themselves in fantasy.
The repeated justification that women in a fantasy world shouldn't resemble women, or "...in a game where you can shoot fireballs, travel through dimensions, go back in time, and resurrect the dead..." is silly. Women in a game can also get magic powers that make them stronger. Erasing female physicality is erasing women, and replacing them with men playing women.
The insistence that acknowledging that women are weaker than men is some sort of bigotry is deeply misogynistic. If fantasy women are just as strong as men, then real women just need to work harder to live up to the standards of men. If women in fantasy are as strong as men, then women in reality aren't being allowed to see themselves in fantasy.
The repeated justification that women in a fantasy world shouldn't resemble women, or "...in a game where you can shoot fireballs, travel through dimensions, go back in time, and resurrect the dead..." is silly. Women in a game can also get magic powers that make them stronger. Erasing female physicality is erasing women, and replacing them with men playing women.