when i watch media from 60 years ago i am overwhelmed by how much community there was inside workplaces. people communicated. they had community. ideas were communicative. so was effort. it almost feels like a violation in the modern sense to watch how in each other's business they were. and the backwash of social communication that comes with the transaction of work chat.
well anyways that's starting to feel like, i would not mind that level of familiarity and interaction at my job and maybe in society out with strangers, people i am competing against for resources, like, milk at the grocery store.
it's just me, and, my spouse, that i dump 100% of my social needs on, and i'm a lot, so i exhaust her quickly. i learned to keep bottled up most of my need to deflate after a day because that is basically holding someone hostage, to hear how my day went, as therapeutic as it is for me, it's an exchange of toxic assets that deserves compensation or greater distribution across a wider audience... like a workplace or a society tolerant of exchanging with strangers
so in the vein of lugging all this work around that gives us burnout, i have a theory that we're bottling way more up and solving it solo, poorly, just accumulating baggages that a different world used to exchange freely as part of a social acumen.
anyways i've put myself in a precarious situation of being vulnerable to a bevy of reality checking thread responses, which, i'd gladly take as good medicine to hear what i'm getting wrong; but i think i might have lobbed this point generally in a direction that is accurate, even if not precise: we dont have "our people" anymore and we're rotting together
well anyways that's starting to feel like, i would not mind that level of familiarity and interaction at my job and maybe in society out with strangers, people i am competing against for resources, like, milk at the grocery store.
it's just me, and, my spouse, that i dump 100% of my social needs on, and i'm a lot, so i exhaust her quickly. i learned to keep bottled up most of my need to deflate after a day because that is basically holding someone hostage, to hear how my day went, as therapeutic as it is for me, it's an exchange of toxic assets that deserves compensation or greater distribution across a wider audience... like a workplace or a society tolerant of exchanging with strangers
so in the vein of lugging all this work around that gives us burnout, i have a theory that we're bottling way more up and solving it solo, poorly, just accumulating baggages that a different world used to exchange freely as part of a social acumen.
anyways i've put myself in a precarious situation of being vulnerable to a bevy of reality checking thread responses, which, i'd gladly take as good medicine to hear what i'm getting wrong; but i think i might have lobbed this point generally in a direction that is accurate, even if not precise: we dont have "our people" anymore and we're rotting together