I think this is well reasoned. I am sure some people will try to make a moral equivalence of men and women's anger in exchanges across the dating interface. I reject that equivalence for a very simple reason:
* Men are angry they are facing rejection.
* Women are angry they are still subject to abuse, chattel status and risk of Sexual violence.
They just aren't equivalent.
That said. As a non participant I don't think I like some of the implicit test qualities in online exchanges i see on reddit. "Sorry you used LOL so you are bad. Bye" is .. well I guess it's a noise filter but it's kind of silly.
Is the problem a version of transactional/relational mismatch? Only partly. I would love to understand if the dating spaces where women must make the first move have a different problem by scale or intensity. (I stress purely out of interest. I read blind date stories because they're entertaining not because I need a date)
* Men are angry they are facing rejection.
* Women are angry they are still subject to abuse, chattel status and risk of Sexual violence.
They just aren't equivalent.
That said. As a non participant I don't think I like some of the implicit test qualities in online exchanges i see on reddit. "Sorry you used LOL so you are bad. Bye" is .. well I guess it's a noise filter but it's kind of silly.
Is the problem a version of transactional/relational mismatch? Only partly. I would love to understand if the dating spaces where women must make the first move have a different problem by scale or intensity. (I stress purely out of interest. I read blind date stories because they're entertaining not because I need a date)