I think the right way to avoid this problem is to avoid using ABI at runtime or build time.
At runtime, it means - don't use shared libraries.
At build time, it means - build every library from the source, don't use pre-built artifacts.
This sounds controversial... But it allows you to change compiler or compiler options at any time, and you don't have to bother. It also enables cross-compilation, reproducible builds, and portable binaries. You no longer have to ask developers to set up a complex build environment on a specific Linux distribution because it works everywhere.
At runtime, it means - don't use shared libraries. At build time, it means - build every library from the source, don't use pre-built artifacts.
This sounds controversial... But it allows you to change compiler or compiler options at any time, and you don't have to bother. It also enables cross-compilation, reproducible builds, and portable binaries. You no longer have to ask developers to set up a complex build environment on a specific Linux distribution because it works everywhere.
I use this approach for ClickHouse.