I didn't blame anyone; I just made some observations on how this type of thing can be avoided, partly based on my own experience doing volunteer work for the last 20 years (as open source maintainer and as scout leader), and being subject to the same pressures at times.
I hate this trend of shouting "victim blaming!" once someone tries to explain things or analyse anything. Not everything needs to be a value judgement. "X happened, and Y could have prevented it" is not a judgement.
I hate this trend of shouting "victim blaming!" once someone tries to explain things or analyse anything. Not everything needs to be a value judgement. "X happened, and Y could have prevented it" is not a judgement.