That sounds easy to solve - tell them to go pound salt. If it's a private mailing list where you're judge, jury, and executioner why would you cater to people who are looking to cause problems? Let them leave, there's a billion more people out there to join your list.
Moderation is easy. Moderating without hurting the feelings of anonymous strangers is hard.
Moderation is easy. Moderating without hurting the feelings of anonymous strangers is hard.