I think a lot about frequency. I think about the frequency I clean my house, or the frequency I maintain my yard. There were a lot of jokey TikToks about how frequently men change their bed sheets or how frequently they wash their bathroom towels.
Habit seems to be a quick way to say "an activity repeated with some frequency over a long period of time". I think about learning an instrument and how playing X minutes a day is often a recommendation. I think about American Thanksgiving and how it gives a yearly frequency for large family gatherings.
It is interesting for me to consider the activities that I do on different frequencies: daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly. One major change I have considered is to reframe importance away from "how much time do I spend on this" into "how frequently do I do this".
Articles about "goal setting" like this one often seem to fall flat for me. I've set all the goals, many times. What I've found many times over is that once I establish the rhythm of life around the activities, I realize that my lived experience doesn't match my expectations.
I guess what I'm saying is, goals aren't enough. You have to understand the frequency of activity you are signing up for when you take on the goal. And if you cannot stomach the frequency of the activities that are required to achieve your goals then no amount of planning will help you. Striking that balance, between goals and the frequency of effort towards them, is the real difficult task.
I believe that is partly responsible for some spiritual ideas around freeing oneself from desire for particular outcomes. There is some value in focusing solely on the activities you engage in frequently without focusing on your attachment to the outcomes.
Habit seems to be a quick way to say "an activity repeated with some frequency over a long period of time". I think about learning an instrument and how playing X minutes a day is often a recommendation. I think about American Thanksgiving and how it gives a yearly frequency for large family gatherings.
It is interesting for me to consider the activities that I do on different frequencies: daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly. One major change I have considered is to reframe importance away from "how much time do I spend on this" into "how frequently do I do this".
Articles about "goal setting" like this one often seem to fall flat for me. I've set all the goals, many times. What I've found many times over is that once I establish the rhythm of life around the activities, I realize that my lived experience doesn't match my expectations.
I guess what I'm saying is, goals aren't enough. You have to understand the frequency of activity you are signing up for when you take on the goal. And if you cannot stomach the frequency of the activities that are required to achieve your goals then no amount of planning will help you. Striking that balance, between goals and the frequency of effort towards them, is the real difficult task.
I believe that is partly responsible for some spiritual ideas around freeing oneself from desire for particular outcomes. There is some value in focusing solely on the activities you engage in frequently without focusing on your attachment to the outcomes.