Ugh, this kind of stuff gives me nightmares. I do all the "IT stuff" for my family, including keeping our cable modem and network infrastructure working, hosting our E-mail, keeping track of everyone's passwords in a password manager. I keep all of the usernames and passwords for our online services, including financial institutions. If I suddenly disappeared one day, nobody would be able to log into anything or pay bills, and they'd be one VPS failure or LetsEncrypt certificate hiccup away from losing access to their E-mail.
I've tried to mitigate this risk by keeping a so-called "death book": a hardcopy of all accounts, passwords, 2 factor auth instructions, router SSIDs, and so on, kept in the firesafe with all the other important stuff. But this Reddit post points out that this is not enough! Someone would also have to come in and take over the technical toil and maintenance that it takes to keep everything running. Not sure what the solution is. The rest of my family has no interest in learning this stuff. They can't even remember their own passwords without me, let alone ssh to our VPS and restart exim4.
I've tried to mitigate this risk by keeping a so-called "death book": a hardcopy of all accounts, passwords, 2 factor auth instructions, router SSIDs, and so on, kept in the firesafe with all the other important stuff. But this Reddit post points out that this is not enough! Someone would also have to come in and take over the technical toil and maintenance that it takes to keep everything running. Not sure what the solution is. The rest of my family has no interest in learning this stuff. They can't even remember their own passwords without me, let alone ssh to our VPS and restart exim4.