Same thing happens all the in my relationship with my partner:
I text "oh hey if you haven't left yet could you bring my umbrella?"
She arrives 20 minutes late and $20 down, having received message after she left and taken a detour to buy me an umbrella.
Communicating stakes and priorities is hard! I think I've been explicit but she doesn't read messages as literally as me. I should have said "if you have already left then please don't worry as I have a coat on".
I text "oh hey if you haven't left yet could you bring my umbrella?"
She arrives 20 minutes late and $20 down, having received message after she left and taken a detour to buy me an umbrella.
Communicating stakes and priorities is hard! I think I've been explicit but she doesn't read messages as literally as me. I should have said "if you have already left then please don't worry as I have a coat on".