> Developing crushes on people you actually know in your social scenes is more reasonable
You are absolutely correct here, but the primary problem with this is that a combination of sexual harassment statutes, #metoo movements, and generalized "women don't ever want to be approached" zeitgeist has closed this avenue off.
This avenue is generally still available if you follow the two rules, but if you do not, it's over for you.
Church is probably the only exception to this, but with drastically increasing secularization of society, good luck with that.
You are absolutely correct here, but the primary problem with this is that a combination of sexual harassment statutes, #metoo movements, and generalized "women don't ever want to be approached" zeitgeist has closed this avenue off.
This avenue is generally still available if you follow the two rules, but if you do not, it's over for you.
Church is probably the only exception to this, but with drastically increasing secularization of society, good luck with that.