I read your story and the only thing I can think of is: I have no idea how to "properly" interview you, and I don't think anyone knows how to either (except maybe just reading your CV, having a pleasant chat with you for 30 minutes, then handing you the job).
All this ranting seems to be against a one-off event into a (presumably) multi-year gig.
Switching careers just because of a couple bad interview experiences is a really interesting line of thought, but assuming you actually act upon the idea (instead of just dwelling on it because you thought software interviews are bad), maybe in the process you'll gain a bit more perspective of how good or bad the software industry is doing w.r.t. interviews as compared to other industries.
Don't worry about sounding like too much of a baby on HN, it seems everyone else here also wants to be fawned upon by random strangers in the interview process and have a list of a dozen things they would absolutely not tolerate during the process.
All this ranting seems to be against a one-off event into a (presumably) multi-year gig.
Switching careers just because of a couple bad interview experiences is a really interesting line of thought, but assuming you actually act upon the idea (instead of just dwelling on it because you thought software interviews are bad), maybe in the process you'll gain a bit more perspective of how good or bad the software industry is doing w.r.t. interviews as compared to other industries.
Don't worry about sounding like too much of a baby on HN, it seems everyone else here also wants to be fawned upon by random strangers in the interview process and have a list of a dozen things they would absolutely not tolerate during the process.
Madness, if you ask me.