In some places, it's "gay" if two guys hold hands. On the racist bit: it can be hard to disambiguate why someone treats you in an unfavorable way -- it could be because they're actually racist or they could just be a pissy person who hates their job.
Just because a person or group of people classifies you a certain way doesn't make it universally true.
Just because a person or group of people classifies you a certain way doesn't make it universally true.