It's not bad that your desires are influenced by what others want (it's inevitable, we're social animals), but understanding how those influences work is part of understanding your desires and what's behind them.
Personally, I would be miserable if the people around me didn't approve of me, even if it's for their own selfish reasons.
Personally, I would be miserable if the people around me didn't approve of me, even if it's for their own selfish reasons.