I've worked in tech for 20+ years and I have 4 young kids. We allow our teenager use of a locked down smartphone, with a clearly explained zero expectation of privacy. We don't allow any social media on the phone itself. YouTube and other sites can be used under supervision for agreed on lengths of time.
Once or twice a week my wife or I will go through their text messages with them and ask questions about anything that seems off.
It is a LOT of work. But so far, it has paid off. The more responsible the usage, the more freedom we give. When bad patterns start surfacing, we rein it in.
IMO parents are reluctant to intervene because they either don't know where to start, or struggle with how much work it is.
Once or twice a week my wife or I will go through their text messages with them and ask questions about anything that seems off.
It is a LOT of work. But so far, it has paid off. The more responsible the usage, the more freedom we give. When bad patterns start surfacing, we rein it in.
IMO parents are reluctant to intervene because they either don't know where to start, or struggle with how much work it is.