I doggedly still run my 20+ year email platform for self-use. I ran into the same problems with Google/Gmail. I am ashamed to say that the solution I settled on was to just give up and pay them for smarthosting. I still host my own servers, but my exit pipe is through gmail. My life got easier.
The rule is pretty much every interaction you have in the Googleverse is easier if you just pay them something. It's pay to play internet, and yeah, it's a problem.
The rule is pretty much every interaction you have in the Googleverse is easier if you just pay them something. It's pay to play internet, and yeah, it's a problem.