For a while, that was my strategy to cultivate a social life: organizing brunches with 6-10 former teammates and acquaintances.
As social occasions, the brunches didn't lead to anything in my life. The guests made extremely generic smalltalk. I don't know if anyone had fun. I didn't get invited to anything else in those people's lives.
I was kind of glad that COVID killed the brunches because of how fruitless they were.
I get the idea that spending time one on one can turn into giving each other life updates instead of a more intimate exchange. But group events can also be really shallow and demotivating.
As social occasions, the brunches didn't lead to anything in my life. The guests made extremely generic smalltalk. I don't know if anyone had fun. I didn't get invited to anything else in those people's lives.
I was kind of glad that COVID killed the brunches because of how fruitless they were.
I get the idea that spending time one on one can turn into giving each other life updates instead of a more intimate exchange. But group events can also be really shallow and demotivating.