It's also unethical to make promises to users, like privacy for posts published to a semipublic social network, that software can't possibly keep.
It's going to be interesting watching the norms of the fediverse collide with the expectations of ordinary software users. Mastodon and ActivityPub have a lot of promise as an alternative to centralized social networks, and there are good reasons to use them even if you don't buy into the ethos of the fediverse. If Mastodon is going anywhere, those users will soon drastically outnumber the keepers of the fediverse norms.
It's going to be interesting watching the norms of the fediverse collide with the expectations of ordinary software users. Mastodon and ActivityPub have a lot of promise as an alternative to centralized social networks, and there are good reasons to use them even if you don't buy into the ethos of the fediverse. If Mastodon is going anywhere, those users will soon drastically outnumber the keepers of the fediverse norms.