I also have a lot of issues with versioning data. But look at git annex - it's free, self hosted and has a very easy underlying data structure [1]. So I don't even use the magic commands it has for remote data mounting/multi-device coordination, just backup using basic S3 commands and can use rclone mounting. Very robust, open source, and useful
[1] When you run `git annex add` it hashes the file and moves the original file to a `.git/annex/data` folder under the hash/content addressable file system, like git. Then it replaces the original file with a symlink to this hashed file path. The file is marked as read only, so any command in any language which tries to write to it will error (you can always `git annex unlock` so you can write to it). If you have duplicated files, they easily point to the same hashed location. As long as you git push normally and back up the `.git/annex/data` you're totally version controlled, and you can share the subset of files as needed
[1] When you run `git annex add` it hashes the file and moves the original file to a `.git/annex/data` folder under the hash/content addressable file system, like git. Then it replaces the original file with a symlink to this hashed file path. The file is marked as read only, so any command in any language which tries to write to it will error (you can always `git annex unlock` so you can write to it). If you have duplicated files, they easily point to the same hashed location. As long as you git push normally and back up the `.git/annex/data` you're totally version controlled, and you can share the subset of files as needed