Comment by Helmut10001

Tipp: I usually go to bed with my 3y old son at 8pm. Then I usually wake up at 4am (or earlier). Between 4am and 6.30, I can do all my personal stuff, self-hosting, reading HN, trying technologies etc. We eat breakfast together and then head to work/Kindergarden etc. Worked really well and I totally enjoy the calm morning hours to slowly prepare for the day. That said, having kids is still the biggest challenge I ever encountered (I worked abroad, got a PhD, went to UC Berkeley and still, all of this felt super easy compared to a kid).