I'd like to join the "congratulations" crowd but I just can't. Having a kid has made many aspects of my life more difficult and ultimately worse. I've lost countless hours of sleep, my focus is worse, my personal relationships are failing... life is just not as good as it used to be. I have been remote for nearly a decade and I long for the days of working in an office again. I don't miss the people, I miss the peace of having everyone around me working with noise canceling headphones and only knowing people are there when they make it obvious they want to talk and only then because there's a problem to solve that is actually solvable.
I'm not saying his to rain on your parade. I'm saying this because not all people are created equal. You don't have to like parenthood. I love my kid but that doesn't mean that I love what I've become. If you find yourself there (or if anyone else is reading this and thinking they can't believe I'm saying it out loud), it's okay. You can still be a good parent, even if you don't love it and you're not a bad person, as long as you try.
I'm not saying his to rain on your parade. I'm saying this because not all people are created equal. You don't have to like parenthood. I love my kid but that doesn't mean that I love what I've become. If you find yourself there (or if anyone else is reading this and thinking they can't believe I'm saying it out loud), it's okay. You can still be a good parent, even if you don't love it and you're not a bad person, as long as you try.