One relative of mine insists on getting me gifts. They seem to think that they know what I'd like better than I do, but they don't! I frequently don't like the gifts they give.
I've tried to guide them towards better choices by giving them a wishlist every year and even giving them a few rules. But they don't use the wishlist as much as they should, and they try to bend the rules. "Oh, you said that you didn't want X, so I thought it would be nice to get you X'." I have to think about how they are going to misinterpret any rule I give them now.
Perhaps the worst part is that they get somewhat offended when I point out that I don't want particular gifts. They also frequently point out when you're using their gift. For example, I don't know how many times they've told me "nice shirt" when I wore I shirt they bought me. I also suspect that they get somewhat offended if they don't see me using their gift.
I've tried to guide them towards better choices by giving them a wishlist every year and even giving them a few rules. But they don't use the wishlist as much as they should, and they try to bend the rules. "Oh, you said that you didn't want X, so I thought it would be nice to get you X'." I have to think about how they are going to misinterpret any rule I give them now.
Perhaps the worst part is that they get somewhat offended when I point out that I don't want particular gifts. They also frequently point out when you're using their gift. For example, I don't know how many times they've told me "nice shirt" when I wore I shirt they bought me. I also suspect that they get somewhat offended if they don't see me using their gift.