As a man not much younger than you, it's helpful to hear that's a turn-off. What to ask when is tricky. I see several options:
1. Estimate the odds of successfully procreating upfront; Downside: Can seem boorish and unromantic and ruin the chance of a potentially successful relationship.
2. Keep getting to know each other and discuss once we're more comfortable with each other. If the answer is unfavorable:
a. Be honest about the reason for ending the relationship; Downside: Cruel to one's partner and heartbreaking
b. Fabricate an excuse for ending things; Downside: Dishonest and unfair to partner; guilt and heartbreak
c. Stay anyway; Downside: Reduces likelihood of having children
All this to say, I worry that your gut reaction may be filtering out the men most serious about having children. If someone knows you as a multi-dimensional being beyond a dating prospect first the approach changes. So I'd add this as a reason meet people through others means.
Of course, you're doing that now. This has gotten so much attention that it I'd give you one-third odds of being married in 18 months to either someone who saw this thread or someone someone who sees this thread introduces you to.
This is the dilemma with so many things. In trying to figure out a generic way of solving the problem, you take an approach that works fabulously for you but is difficult to scale. A bit like the education problem...
Of course, you're doing that now. This has gotten so much attention that it I'd give you one-third odds of being married in 18 months to either someone who saw this thread or someone someone who sees this thread introduces you to.
This is the dilemma with so many things. In trying to figure out a generic way of solving the problem, you take an approach that works fabulously for you but is difficult to scale. A bit like the education problem...