Can't we say that the labour market is a market, and is unfair to some people, and the dating market is a market, and is unfair to some people? I'd guess that would be the "typical" HN person take, and I don't see a problem with it. I also don't see a problem with wanting to increase your chances of success, in either arena.
> one is not owed this attention, time or privilege
I thought this[0] was a really good piece about this kind of framing
> one is not owed this attention, time or privilege
I thought this[0] was a really good piece about this kind of framing
[0] https://www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v40/n06/amia-srinivasan/does...