> if you act like an asshole around any kid, eventually they'll learn to become more of an asshole
Exactly true. But the thing is, you, based on your genes and lived experiences, are already going to be the kind of parent who will be an asshole, or you won't.
You are already either the kind of parent who will worry about being the right kind of parent, or you aren't.
Those choices are dictated by who you are, and who you are is already defined by your genes and lived experiences.
How your kids respond to you is also already defined by _their_ genes and lived experiences.
Exactly true. But the thing is, you, based on your genes and lived experiences, are already going to be the kind of parent who will be an asshole, or you won't.
You are already either the kind of parent who will worry about being the right kind of parent, or you aren't.
Those choices are dictated by who you are, and who you are is already defined by your genes and lived experiences.
How your kids respond to you is also already defined by _their_ genes and lived experiences.