> Parents should also be reminded that physical
punishment may cause tantrum behavior to intensify and
lengthen. Such parental behavior also teaches children
that hitting is permitted when the punishment is physical
(Kyle, 2008; Murphy & Berry, 2009)
> The best recommendation for
parents in this situation is to remain calm, try to distract
the child, and ignore the tantrum if possible.
> "Getting into it teaches the kid the way to get your attention is to have a big fuss," he said. "If you ignore that outburst, they're less likely to do it."
- neuropsychologist w/ lots published on quality and duration of tantrums in toddlers
Obviously there's lots of nuance and this is mainly advice given for tantrums in toddlers, primarily attention seeking tantrums in toddlers without development issues.
But it does generally follow 'praise good behavior, ignore bad behavior'.
> The best recommendation for parents in this situation is to remain calm, try to distract the child, and ignore the tantrum if possible.
[1] https://sci-hub.st/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23006014/
> Ignore the tantrum.
[2] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK544286/
> "Getting into it teaches the kid the way to get your attention is to have a big fuss," he said. "If you ignore that outburst, they're less likely to do it."
- neuropsychologist w/ lots published on quality and duration of tantrums in toddlers
[3] https://www.today.com/health/real-reasons-your-toddler-cryin...
[4] https://sci-hub.st/https://doi.org/10.1097/00004703-20030600...
[5] https://sci-hub.st/https://doi.org/10.1037/a0024173
> Any behavior that gets attention will continue
- clinical psychologist
[6] https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/how-to-respond-to-tantru...
Obviously there's lots of nuance and this is mainly advice given for tantrums in toddlers, primarily attention seeking tantrums in toddlers without development issues.
But it does generally follow 'praise good behavior, ignore bad behavior'.