I read about this in a kind of new-agey self-help book more than 10 years ago and I don't remember the author or the book title. I'm looking for the source. It's something like this:
1. Something happens to you - interaction with a person, some mundane or significant event, whatever it is.
2. You have your "first response" to it - that's the first thought that comes to you after the event, maybe it's your first reaction when you read a comment online, or when a colleague does something you don't like etc.
3. You discard your first response and think "if that's not my response, then what is". A second possible response comes up in your head. You get rid of that one too.
4. Repeat steps 2 and 3 for a while - possible ways to respond occur to you and you discard them.
The general idea was that the later responses are more mature, more compassionate, more useful etc. and you're systematically working your way to them.
Any idea where this is from?
1. Something happens to you - interaction with a person, some mundane or significant event, whatever it is.
2. You have your "first response" to it - that's the first thought that comes to you after the event, maybe it's your first reaction when you read a comment online, or when a colleague does something you don't like etc.
3. You discard your first response and think "if that's not my response, then what is". A second possible response comes up in your head. You get rid of that one too.
4. Repeat steps 2 and 3 for a while - possible ways to respond occur to you and you discard them.
The general idea was that the later responses are more mature, more compassionate, more useful etc. and you're systematically working your way to them.
Any idea where this is from?