It's not just "hurting someone's feelings". It's dehumanising and demoralising to a culture. It benefits groups to use terms like the n-word to have power over minorities.
If you've ever lived with depression or anxiety, you'll know that these things can lead to financial ruin and suicide. The "hurting someone's feelings" idea is so harmful and belittling to this idea. And is another way that these abusers get away with it.
"Just man up! It's just a joke! It's your fault you got offended". If that person is now afraid to leave their home, who's fault is that really?
If you've ever lived with depression or anxiety, you'll know that these things can lead to financial ruin and suicide. The "hurting someone's feelings" idea is so harmful and belittling to this idea. And is another way that these abusers get away with it.
"Just man up! It's just a joke! It's your fault you got offended". If that person is now afraid to leave their home, who's fault is that really?