Just to build upon the Practice element you mentioned, any time you want to change something, then do exposure therapy
Can you go to the bar, speak to 50 people, make 5 excellent business contacts and conquor the world? No
Can you go to the bar and speak to 50 people? No
Can you go to the bar and speak to 3 people? No
Can you go to the bar? Yes
Ok, this time go to the bar, if you're not ready to speak to people then just observe others interactions. Then go home, that's enough for today.
Next time go to the bar, and speak to one person. Practice. That's enough for today.
Next time go a little further.
That's how I started at the gym. I realized I was avoiding the gym because I didn't know to how to go to the gym, do an excellent workout, and not make an idiot of myself. But that's too much at once.
I started by just going to the gym. Just show up. Stand there, look at the equipment and go home.
Next day, go to the gym, lift 1 weight 10 times. Then go home.
Next day, a little more.
Now I easily do an hour in the gym.
Expose yourself to the thing you fear in a reasonable way, repeated exposure with increasing intensity is what people say when they say "Practice, Practice, Practice"
Can you go to the bar, speak to 50 people, make 5 excellent business contacts and conquor the world? No
Can you go to the bar and speak to 50 people? No
Can you go to the bar and speak to 3 people? No
Can you go to the bar? Yes
Ok, this time go to the bar, if you're not ready to speak to people then just observe others interactions. Then go home, that's enough for today.
Next time go to the bar, and speak to one person. Practice. That's enough for today.
Next time go a little further.
That's how I started at the gym. I realized I was avoiding the gym because I didn't know to how to go to the gym, do an excellent workout, and not make an idiot of myself. But that's too much at once.
I started by just going to the gym. Just show up. Stand there, look at the equipment and go home.
Next day, go to the gym, lift 1 weight 10 times. Then go home.
Next day, a little more.
Now I easily do an hour in the gym.
Expose yourself to the thing you fear in a reasonable way, repeated exposure with increasing intensity is what people say when they say "Practice, Practice, Practice"