What exactly does it mean, for you, to say that a person is responsible for a thing?
To me it means things like: you can reasonably be blamed if it's bad and praised if it's good; you have/had the ability to influence it a lot; someone wanting it changed would be well advised to go to you for help; it's the way you wanted things to be, or at least a predictable consequence of the way you wanted things to be.
If something happens to me by chance then by definition I didn't have the power to make it different, there's no point praising or blaming me for it; it has nothing to do with what I wanted.
(There are intermediate cases. Suppose I deliberately created a situation where a particular thing was more likely to happen, and it happened. Even if the processes leading to the thing happening were random, I could still be somewhat responsible for it. That's why there are laws around things like recklessness and negligence.)
If you reckon that everything that happens to you is your responsibility, it sounds as if you mean something very different by "responsible". But what?
To me it means things like: you can reasonably be blamed if it's bad and praised if it's good; you have/had the ability to influence it a lot; someone wanting it changed would be well advised to go to you for help; it's the way you wanted things to be, or at least a predictable consequence of the way you wanted things to be.
If something happens to me by chance then by definition I didn't have the power to make it different, there's no point praising or blaming me for it; it has nothing to do with what I wanted.
(There are intermediate cases. Suppose I deliberately created a situation where a particular thing was more likely to happen, and it happened. Even if the processes leading to the thing happening were random, I could still be somewhat responsible for it. That's why there are laws around things like recklessness and negligence.)
If you reckon that everything that happens to you is your responsibility, it sounds as if you mean something very different by "responsible". But what?