Comment by thelopa

In my experience as a trans person, cis people usually are the ones making the big deal about pronouns. Everyone seems to be shocked when I don’t attack them for small mistakes. What cis people don’t seem to understand is that there’s a massive difference between ignoring someone’s requested pronouns and accidentally slipping up from time to time. Both feel shitty to be on the receiving end of, but one is malicious while the other is just an honest mistake. All it takes to not be rude is a quick “sorry” and then using the correct pronoun. Meanwhile, cis people seem to think that if they ever mess up a pronoun they’ll be banned from polite society unless they self flagellate while wearing a hair shirt and burlap underwear.