I'm a software developer, 32 years old, no children. I married last year after a 5 year relationship with my girlfriend. I deeply regret it but I don't know what to do.
One strategy I used was to tell her that I don't want to have kids, and I told her it was ok if she left me. She said she was never sure about having kids either and wants to stay married.
I don't want to hurt my partner, but I also don't want to stay in the marriage. I am sure I want to break up and be single again - and very likely remain single forever, I can't understand how many men can marry twice.
But how to do it? We look like the perfect couple for everyone including our in-laws.
Main problem is that she still depends on me financially. Am I a bad person if I keep pretending for a couple of years until she finishes her studies, gets a good job and then break up? (she is also a software dev, she is already working but earns a pretty low salary)
One strategy I used was to tell her that I don't want to have kids, and I told her it was ok if she left me. She said she was never sure about having kids either and wants to stay married.
I don't want to hurt my partner, but I also don't want to stay in the marriage. I am sure I want to break up and be single again - and very likely remain single forever, I can't understand how many men can marry twice.
But how to do it? We look like the perfect couple for everyone including our in-laws.
Main problem is that she still depends on me financially. Am I a bad person if I keep pretending for a couple of years until she finishes her studies, gets a good job and then break up? (she is also a software dev, she is already working but earns a pretty low salary)