I am one of those who love Japanese pop culture, but you are 100% correct.
It very nearly soured me on Japan serval times as you mention it has you.
Many, not just questionable, but outright disturbing practices make it a very bipolar place to live.
The most vivid thing I personally experienced was going clubbing in Osaka then after closing running into a pair of girls I was dancing with at some point and I asked why they weren’t interested and the reply was that I wasn’t (physically) aggressive enough and asked too many questions. They literally didn’t want me to let them say no, so they wouldn’t have to take “responsibility” of going with me.
That night _really_ turned me off of submissiveness as being an attractive personality trait
It very nearly soured me on Japan serval times as you mention it has you.
Many, not just questionable, but outright disturbing practices make it a very bipolar place to live.
The most vivid thing I personally experienced was going clubbing in Osaka then after closing running into a pair of girls I was dancing with at some point and I asked why they weren’t interested and the reply was that I wasn’t (physically) aggressive enough and asked too many questions. They literally didn’t want me to let them say no, so they wouldn’t have to take “responsibility” of going with me.
That night _really_ turned me off of submissiveness as being an attractive personality trait