I'm sure that works for a certain demographic, but on the other hand for a lot of kids after a certain point the advice provided by the parent falls on deaf ears. They have to make mistakes and suffer the consequences of them before they ever truly learn from them. You're not dealing with a rational adult, for many of them I'm sure it's more or less "there goes mom, lecturing me again." and at this period in their lives they're just about to begin their ascent into puberty, one of the most transformative periods that involves a lot of rebellion and a lot of risky behavior. Kids need to see that there's consequences to their actions and if their parents can provide that in a controlled environment, I don't think its poor skills.
I think it's being ahead of the curve. Setting the expectation for not only what they might run into out there, but what to expect when they get home. If anything you should combine the two approaches.
I think it's being ahead of the curve. Setting the expectation for not only what they might run into out there, but what to expect when they get home. If anything you should combine the two approaches.