> I don’t remember how much I drank. I don’t remember him drinking. But I remember feeling uncomfortable when he made advances on me. I felt being taken advantage of that he had unprotected sex with me when I was intoxicated. Nothing felt right. I remember panicking and crying.
I don't want to victim blame here because this guy sounds like a grade A creep and predator. But does a person not have some responsibility here to not get so intoxicated when alone with a member of the opposite sex in a private space? Because sometimes the person is consenting at the time and then regrets it later - and then proceeds to ruin the other person's life by accusing them of taking advantage of an intoxicated individual. I just find this whole area very slippery about when consent means consent and when it doesn't - especially the way sex, alcohol, and drugs are so intertwined in our society. I rightly or wrongly think you have to have some responsibility for putting yourself in such a vulnerable place where you are not in the right frame of mind to resist advances or make sensible decisions. Am I wrong about that?
I don't know if she gave consent, and again, I'm inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt, based on her story, age, etc. I just want to discuss this whole business of consent while intoxicated on which I do not have a clear opinion.
I don't want to victim blame here because this guy sounds like a grade A creep and predator. But does a person not have some responsibility here to not get so intoxicated when alone with a member of the opposite sex in a private space? Because sometimes the person is consenting at the time and then regrets it later - and then proceeds to ruin the other person's life by accusing them of taking advantage of an intoxicated individual. I just find this whole area very slippery about when consent means consent and when it doesn't - especially the way sex, alcohol, and drugs are so intertwined in our society. I rightly or wrongly think you have to have some responsibility for putting yourself in such a vulnerable place where you are not in the right frame of mind to resist advances or make sensible decisions. Am I wrong about that?
I don't know if she gave consent, and again, I'm inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt, based on her story, age, etc. I just want to discuss this whole business of consent while intoxicated on which I do not have a clear opinion.