You repeat the word "toxic" a lot here, but there's nothing toxic about believing gender gaps in representation are mostly due to personality differences. For example, you could believe that gender gaps in engineering are 60% personality-driven and 40% discrimination/sexism-driven. There is nothing toxic about this opinion; a 60-40 person may still abhor discrimination and make common cause to minimize it with other social justice advocates. The only people who think that opinion is toxic are those who insist that all inequalities are automatically due to bigotry and oppression, no additional investigation or evidence needed.
It seems to me that your move to the Blue Tribe could have less to do with the "toxicity" of the Grey Tribe and more to do with your eagerness to hurl unfounded moral accusations at those who hold positions you disagree with. That is quite the popular pastime within the Blue Tribe (even if some of its members may themselves be disgusted by it).
It seems to me that your move to the Blue Tribe could have less to do with the "toxicity" of the Grey Tribe and more to do with your eagerness to hurl unfounded moral accusations at those who hold positions you disagree with. That is quite the popular pastime within the Blue Tribe (even if some of its members may themselves be disgusted by it).