Comment by kill-procrustes

This is the exact same thing as applying a label. Even if someone who disagrees with you does "need to grow," telling them that is a pretty surefire way to get them to write you off. If you actually want to convince and persuade people, you have to meet them where they are. That's the hard work in a democracy, and it can be frustrating and infuriating to see the pain that some people suffer because of the ignorance of others, but that's the way this country is supposed to work—through persuasion and conversation. We've tried lots of other methods of government and social structure throughout history and none of them has done better.