I've seen both extremes. For instance I'm told github largely has a rails monolith and that they have to run headless instances of rails to do database leader election (although this statement implies they are trying to break things out).
I've also talked to junior engineers who want to make every function call a pubsub message.
I've heard principals from Amazon promote a model where one service is responsible for one entity.
What I've decided is that the services in your company should follow conway's law. Most of the problems with a monolith come when multiple teams with differing release cycles and requirements are making changes in a shared codebase and they are having trouble keeping their tree green. You should generally have one to a few services per team. Scoping a service to a team ensures that people can have true ownership.
For SREs microservices are harder, but they give SREs the control plane they need to do a good job. If communication happens between services rather than function calls, it's easier to instrument all services in a common way and build dashboards. It's simpler to spin up different instances connected to different datasources.
I've also talked to junior engineers who want to make every function call a pubsub message.
I've heard principals from Amazon promote a model where one service is responsible for one entity.
What I've decided is that the services in your company should follow conway's law. Most of the problems with a monolith come when multiple teams with differing release cycles and requirements are making changes in a shared codebase and they are having trouble keeping their tree green. You should generally have one to a few services per team. Scoping a service to a team ensures that people can have true ownership.
For SREs microservices are harder, but they give SREs the control plane they need to do a good job. If communication happens between services rather than function calls, it's easier to instrument all services in a common way and build dashboards. It's simpler to spin up different instances connected to different datasources.