Comment by sankalpb

Would you be willing to say more about this bit?: "But I was always an outsider looking in who never really got to benefit from that strong sense of community (in fact, it arguably did me a lot of harm)." I'm interested in this outside/insider dynamic, and how those correspond to a member's sense of community (leaving aside for the moment whether HN is a community), as well as the experiences of harm that members have had because of those dynamics.